A high self-esteemed person may talk or write to a low self-esteemed person about a personal matter. The low esteemed person will generally misinterpret, misunderstand and/or completely miss the point and intention of the other person. The low esteemed one will think that they are being criticized, disrespected and/or attacked, when that wasn’t the intention at all of the other party. They will only see words or hear words that they feel are the criticizing ones and leave out all the rest. They won’t see the whole letter or conversation in the proper context. Before they open the letter or before the other person begins to speak to them, they are armed for a fight.
Parents, you need to know that self-esteem affects your children’s senses also. It is like wearing colored glasses. The high self-esteemed person is wearing the blue glasses and the low self-esteemed person is wearing the green glasses. It won’t matter how logical and intelligent the first party is toward the second party, the second party is always going to view their world through those green glasses. That’s what they have chosen to put on, either consciously or unconsciously. There is no real communication between these two, until they have on the same colored glasses. Your children need to know that their hearing, touch and smell are also affected. The low self-esteemed person will hear the worst, feel the worst and smell the worst. The high self-esteemed person will hear the best, feel the best and smell the best, because they are looking for the best in everything. You experience the way you want to experience or the manner you have been conditioned to experience. This is another reason I want Parents to always be in a high Self-Esteem building mode with language, behavior and activities.
The parental standards that you were conditioned to accept as you were growing up don’t have to be a permanent part of your life or your children’s lives. As you mature in your emotionality and spirituality, you can make conscious choices about how you want your life and your children’s lives to unfold. You can reset your internal thermostat to whatever you choose for yourself. If those old traditional standards worked for your parents, then that is great for them. It doesn’t mean, however, that they will work for your life. In order to set new parental standards you might need to change your: - Belief system - Religion - Self-talk - Friends - Habits – Emotional Environment - What you allow into your consciousness, such as contrary messages from television and social conversations. I know there are some parents that just naturally build up everyone they meet and they are always a joy to be around. They are known as angels and they bring warmth and compassion everywhere they go. These are the rare souls here on earth and when you experience these angels you never forget it. AND you could be this kind of parent. See it, Claim it, Be it!
It is important to mention self-appreciation as it coincides with your self-esteem. There is a higher self in you that is always working on your behalf whether you are conscious of it or not. This is the self that God breathed into you as you were developing in the womb. This is the part of you that is divine and the same self that will go on after you leave this life. This is the self that never dies. This self has also been called your soul. This is the self that was with God before this earthly experience and will return back to God after this experience. It is this self that needs our appreciation. As children learn by observation, they will in turn learn to appreciate their spirit within.
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