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Your inner world and outer world will be safer with you knowing how to get the upper hand on stress. You’ll be able to kick stress’s butt before stress can kick yours. The super hero who will save you from the gloom and doom perils of the stress villain will be you. (Are your cape and tights ready?) You will save yourself from the misery, depression, rage, anger, fright, violence, and other psychotic behavior that can occur as a result of not catching the stress build-up before it was uncontrollable. Just imagine how your children will feel when they understand this, internalize this and love their new level of empowerment from utilizing this.
You will know just how to cut off the flow of negative energy, thus preventing any behavior that you will be sorry about later. It feels good to be more connected to your body. You will feel healthier in general because you are listening to the small subtle signs that your body is relating to you. This kind of communication can offset headaches, muscle aches and pains, stiffness and even digestive issues. Your children’s confidence will be so strong that they will feel unstoppable in their life pursuits. Most people don’t know how to consistently manage their emotions and you can see by the negative consequences that follow that a portion of their life is unmanageable.
Here are some emotional intelligence fundamentals:
• KNOW YOURSELF
• Choose for Yourself
• Giving of Yourself
• The Six-second Pause
KNOW YOURSELF
What makes you think, act and feel the way you do? What parts of your reactions are habitual and which parts are intentional? What are you afraid of? These are excellent questions to ask yourself AND a good teaching tool for your children. The more they can think about why they feel and react the way that they do, the more responsible they become.
BUILD EMOTIONAL LITERACY part 1
Feelings are a complex aspect of every person. While research has identified eight core feelings (FEAR, JOY, ACCEPTANCE, ANGER, SORROW, DISGUST, SURPRISE, EXPECTATION), we each experience dozens, even hundreds of variations each day. By the way, another research group has identified their own eight primary feelings with their own subcategories. They are ANGER, SADNESS, FEAR, ENJOYMENT, LOVE, SURPRISE, DISGUST AND SHAME. I am aligned with this second research group. These emotions blend, merge and frequently conflict. Emotional Intelligence helps you understand how emotions function in your brain and body, and the interaction of thought, feeling and action. This is so important for parents to understand this so they can help their children with their unmanaged emotions. It is important to help your child with their feeling vocabulary. Start introducing different feeling labels as early as possible. When kids can clearly identify their feelings, they will feel better about themselves and you will know what is going on within them. Many parents have children who are displaying angry, aggressive behavior towards them and anybody in their environment. They don’t know how to express what they really feel. They throw whatever is near, sometimes dangerous items, toward the first person they see (most of the time it is Mommy), hit, kick, bite and spit. On many occasions, this happens before they are two years old and the parents haven’t a clue of what is happening. Some parents, not knowing what to do, act aggressively toward the child, in response, thinking the child will be scared and “straighten up.” This is a critical age to “do the right thing” with them.
Before the age of two, their brain is not yet developed enough for logic and reasoning ability. At this age, they learn solely by observation. This is why your body language and tone of voice is so important to them. Sincere hugs and soft loving words with direct eye contact work wonders. When I use the term “sincere hugs,” I am talking about hugging not only your physical child, but that spirit within; that divine spirit within that brought that child to you; that spirit within that is unique only to your child; that spirit within that is the blueprint for your child’s future; that spirit within that is your REAL child; their real essence. THOSE hugs, when done consistently will be felt and remembered for the rest of your child’s life.
Your children depend on you not just for the basic needs you provide, but for the emotional support, guidance and parameters you set. Remember, your children come here as a blank slate, not knowing what is healthy or not, what is offensive or not, what is safe is safe or not, what goes against your standards you have set or not, what is OK or not. YOU have to set the tone by your consistent example and guidance, letting them know where their parameters are. They will resist you many times because those standards you have established only register with them after repetition over time. After a while (I know this period will be very frustrating) they will get it and comply with your standards. As their reasoning ability improves, they will understand why you have those established standards.
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
Parents with young children go NOW to www.cloudsofabundance.com and get your FREE Parent Video “5 Steps to Phenomenal Parenting”
Your inner world and outer world will be safer with you knowing how to get the upper hand on stress. You’ll be able to kick stress’s butt before stress can kick yours. The super hero who will save you from the gloom and doom perils of the stress villain will be you. (Are your cape and tights ready?) You will save yourself from the misery, depression, rage, anger, fright, violence, and other psychotic behavior that can occur as a result of not catching the stress build-up before it was uncontrollable. Just imagine how your children will feel when they understand this, internalize this and love their new level of empowerment from utilizing this.
You will know just how to cut off the flow of negative energy, thus preventing any behavior that you will be sorry about later. It feels good to be more connected to your body. You will feel healthier in general because you are listening to the small subtle signs that your body is relating to you. This kind of communication can offset headaches, muscle aches and pains, stiffness and even digestive issues. Your children’s confidence will be so strong that they will feel unstoppable in their life pursuits. Most people don’t know how to consistently manage their emotions and you can see by the negative consequences that follow that a portion of their life is unmanageable.
Here are some emotional intelligence fundamentals:
• KNOW YOURSELF
• Choose for Yourself
• Giving of Yourself
• The Six-second Pause
KNOW YOURSELF
What makes you think, act and feel the way you do? What parts of your reactions are habitual and which parts are intentional? What are you afraid of? These are excellent questions to ask yourself AND a good teaching tool for your children. The more they can think about why they feel and react the way that they do, the more responsible they become.
BUILD EMOTIONAL LITERACY part 1
Feelings are a complex aspect of every person. While research has identified eight core feelings (FEAR, JOY, ACCEPTANCE, ANGER, SORROW, DISGUST, SURPRISE, EXPECTATION), we each experience dozens, even hundreds of variations each day. By the way, another research group has identified their own eight primary feelings with their own subcategories. They are ANGER, SADNESS, FEAR, ENJOYMENT, LOVE, SURPRISE, DISGUST AND SHAME. I am aligned with this second research group. These emotions blend, merge and frequently conflict. Emotional Intelligence helps you understand how emotions function in your brain and body, and the interaction of thought, feeling and action. This is so important for parents to understand this so they can help their children with their unmanaged emotions. It is important to help your child with their feeling vocabulary. Start introducing different feeling labels as early as possible. When kids can clearly identify their feelings, they will feel better about themselves and you will know what is going on within them. Many parents have children who are displaying angry, aggressive behavior towards them and anybody in their environment. They don’t know how to express what they really feel. They throw whatever is near, sometimes dangerous items, toward the first person they see (most of the time it is Mommy), hit, kick, bite and spit. On many occasions, this happens before they are two years old and the parents haven’t a clue of what is happening. Some parents, not knowing what to do, act aggressively toward the child, in response, thinking the child will be scared and “straighten up.” This is a critical age to “do the right thing” with them.
Before the age of two, their brain is not yet developed enough for logic and reasoning ability. At this age, they learn solely by observation. This is why your body language and tone of voice is so important to them. Sincere hugs and soft loving words with direct eye contact work wonders. When I use the term “sincere hugs,” I am talking about hugging not only your physical child, but that spirit within; that divine spirit within that brought that child to you; that spirit within that is unique only to your child; that spirit within that is the blueprint for your child’s future; that spirit within that is your REAL child; their real essence. THOSE hugs, when done consistently will be felt and remembered for the rest of your child’s life.
Your children depend on you not just for the basic needs you provide, but for the emotional support, guidance and parameters you set. Remember, your children come here as a blank slate, not knowing what is healthy or not, what is offensive or not, what is safe is safe or not, what goes against your standards you have set or not, what is OK or not. YOU have to set the tone by your consistent example and guidance, letting them know where their parameters are. They will resist you many times because those standards you have established only register with them after repetition over time. After a while (I know this period will be very frustrating) they will get it and comply with your standards. As their reasoning ability improves, they will understand why you have those established standards.
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
Parents with young children go NOW to www.cloudsofabundance.com and get your FREE Parent Video “5 Steps to Phenomenal Parenting”
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