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BEING PHONY –
You are not being honest with yourself when you are in your phony, fake, conning, false, pretentious mode (Mrs. Worthington example from part 3). With this personality you have this idea that you have to present yourself in a certain way, and just being your natural self doesn’t seem to be good enough. This a clear example of having a low self-esteem and self-image. The pretentiousness is a cover you choose to use because you don’t like how you really feel about yourself and you don’t like what you see when you look into the mirror. Your children wonder why you are acting like that and start thinking that pretentiousness is an OK way to be.
BEING YOUR TRUE AND HEALTHY SELF
Practicing honesty and accepting to be child-centered with its responsibilities is a major step from a Mrs. Worthington to a Mrs. Wonderful. It feels good deep within when you are true to your higher self. This new feeling converts your whole world into a completely different world. You attract circumstances, people and events that never were attracted to you before. Now that your Self has changed, your concept of Self has changed, and you can now say that you like being yourself. When you love you, it is easy to love your children for the divine spirit that is within them. When it is obvious that you are loving who you are, think how your children will feel about themselves.
RESENTMENTS
Parents, do you have resentments from your past that you brought into your marriage AND your parenting? I know you have the very best of intentions, and would never consciously hurt your child, But, have you ever displayed behavior with your child that you weren’t proud of later? Did your child “trigger” memories of someone in your past that are a part of your unreconciled negative memories? Do they remind you of someone you just don’t like? Does their normal disposition bother you for some reason? Have you ever said in your mind, “I don’t know why I don’t like my kid?” You MUST address this serious concern.
There is a lot of talk about unconditionally loving your children but perhaps not enough about how important it is to LIKE them. As your little angels grow and test boundaries and stretch your patience, it can become all too easy to fall into the insidious trap of looking at that child through a negative lens. Because many parents only see what it is they are looking for, they begin to only see the testing, the misbehavior, the endless questions, the curiosities that get on your last nerve and the child who just will not go to sleep. Then ever so slowly, without us mindfully realizing what is occurring, we begin to feel a pang of resentment – of dislike. At this point, it becomes very difficult to notice the good, to see beyond the faults into the heart of that child which beats with goodness, love and purpose. Resentment is blinding. While it's true that your children need your love to thrive, what many parents swept under the rug is that they need you to LIKE them too. They need you to SEE them, see who they are, and to like what it is that you see, because this ultimately is how they come to see themselves. Therefore, it's essential to the well-being of your children and the peace within your homes that you learn to see them through a positive lens, even through times of emotional challenges.
Isn’t it time to go from feeling frustrated, lost, overwhelmed and the feeling of failure to feeling confident, calm, relieved and successful?
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
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