I want to introduce you to three different types of Parental Validators;
The Empathic Validator is the type of Validator that feels the genius or the greatness in their children. When their children bring home an A on their report card, or receive a special award or accolade from school, this type of parent feels the same or in most cases more of the same feelings that their child feels from receiving the award. So, when this child brings home the honor from school and is ecstatic, the parent is also ecstatic and they both are jumping up and down celebrating the achievement. The father comes in and sees a party going on and says, “Where’s the cake and ice cream?”
The Spiritual Validator is the type of Validator that connects the child’s spiritual qualities, they are displaying from a kind act they just performed, to one of God’s attributes. This parent sees the Godly nature in action and is praising God for it. The child comes home and says that he saw a fellow student crying all by himself because some bullies called him derogatory names. He stopped and comforted him and told him that he didn’t see him that way at all and that he would like to be his friend. The tears dried up, they both embraced each other and became friends. The mother was so delighted seeing the divine spirit working within her son knowing he was connecting to God during that charitable, compassionate moment.
The Joyous Validator is the type of Validator that is always looking for ways to celebrate the good they see in their children. This parent doesn’t ever want her/his child to see them stressed and think that they caused it. When stress is apparent this parent will quickly tell the child what is causing the distress so the child won’t take on the blame inwardly or outwardly. This type of parent is always conscious of their child’s presence, knowing they are like dry sponges and will soak up whatever is presented around them, so they present the best AND they look for the best in their child so they can celebrate. They even have a daily mantra they tell their children “Give me something today that I can celebrate!” They have a high-energy household, doing chores to music, singing and smiling at one another.
You can be all three at different times. Just know that your children were created in excellence, by excellence and for excellence and it is your job and love to let them know that.
- Empathic Validator
- Spiritual Validator
- Joyous Validator
The Empathic Validator is the type of Validator that feels the genius or the greatness in their children. When their children bring home an A on their report card, or receive a special award or accolade from school, this type of parent feels the same or in most cases more of the same feelings that their child feels from receiving the award. So, when this child brings home the honor from school and is ecstatic, the parent is also ecstatic and they both are jumping up and down celebrating the achievement. The father comes in and sees a party going on and says, “Where’s the cake and ice cream?”
The Spiritual Validator is the type of Validator that connects the child’s spiritual qualities, they are displaying from a kind act they just performed, to one of God’s attributes. This parent sees the Godly nature in action and is praising God for it. The child comes home and says that he saw a fellow student crying all by himself because some bullies called him derogatory names. He stopped and comforted him and told him that he didn’t see him that way at all and that he would like to be his friend. The tears dried up, they both embraced each other and became friends. The mother was so delighted seeing the divine spirit working within her son knowing he was connecting to God during that charitable, compassionate moment.
The Joyous Validator is the type of Validator that is always looking for ways to celebrate the good they see in their children. This parent doesn’t ever want her/his child to see them stressed and think that they caused it. When stress is apparent this parent will quickly tell the child what is causing the distress so the child won’t take on the blame inwardly or outwardly. This type of parent is always conscious of their child’s presence, knowing they are like dry sponges and will soak up whatever is presented around them, so they present the best AND they look for the best in their child so they can celebrate. They even have a daily mantra they tell their children “Give me something today that I can celebrate!” They have a high-energy household, doing chores to music, singing and smiling at one another.
You can be all three at different times. Just know that your children were created in excellence, by excellence and for excellence and it is your job and love to let them know that.
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