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Your inner child is not going to allow you to disrespect it for long. This is very important as you teach your children to honor their feelings. Your inner child will strike back and you will feel its wrath in one form or another. You have to honor and respect your inner child in order to have a truly peaceful, balanced, loving and happy life. You must also guard your soul, or inner child, from the attacks of others. You have to be your inner child’s best friend just like your children need to be on good terms with their own inner child.
It is important to know how your body is affected when various emotions are experienced.
RAGE, for example, affects the heart and circulation as the face reddens or becomes purple, with the veins on the forehead and neck become distended.
JOY, when intense, leads to various purposeless (sometimes) movements like dancing, clapping and loud laughter.
FEAR and distress activate the limbic system at the base of our brains. This shuts off the cerebral cortex where creativity and problem-solving live. This is why your children cannot process their situation intelligently at this level.
This is how you can abort the feeling of rage and hostility, by consciously shifting your focus from the object of your anger or stress to a problem-solving mode. Right when you feel the stress of anger beginning, start thinking about math equations, computations or multiplication tables. When you do this, you are making a brain shift, from the limbic system at the brain base to the cerebral cortex, which is at the top toward the front part of the brain. You can’t remain angry when you are in a problem-solving mode. You can’t even be angry and solve problems at the same time. The brain won’t allow you to do that. What a tremendous lesson for you AND your children.
Being in tune with your separate body parts is very important. When you are in a very calm state, physically and emotionally, your body is at a level zero on the stress gauge. This level is considered your “baseline,” where you can use as a measurement to judge every other emotional and stressful experience. You should know at any given time how your body parts are doing. Just imagine security cameras focused on your individual body parts and you are in your security booth constantly looking at the screens making sure that there is no disturbance anywhere. As soon as any change is detected, you go right into action to prevent any further disturbances, thus cutting off the possibilities of an escalated stress level, and its accompanying package of side effects. What a great learning tool for you and your children.
There are plenty of symptoms of pre-stress conditions (antecedents) that should alert you that impending doom is lurking if something is not done soon. Some of the most common pre-stress and stress symptoms are:
You AND your children need to know this
When you notice the beginning of any of these changes in your body, it would be wise on your part to intervene right away. Do something to divert your attention away from the source of the stress. Having different calming techniques available for your use anytime is invaluable as you can choose which technique would be appropriate for your situation. Remember my earlier reference to the Antecedents; what comes before the Behavior, which comes before the Consequences? The ABC? This is how it is done. When your children learn this valuable technique, you won’t and they won’t go through many episodes where they react before they think with negative consequences following.
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
Parents with young children go NOW to www.cloudsofabundance.com and get your FREE Parent Video “5 Steps to Phenomenal Parenting”
Your inner child is not going to allow you to disrespect it for long. This is very important as you teach your children to honor their feelings. Your inner child will strike back and you will feel its wrath in one form or another. You have to honor and respect your inner child in order to have a truly peaceful, balanced, loving and happy life. You must also guard your soul, or inner child, from the attacks of others. You have to be your inner child’s best friend just like your children need to be on good terms with their own inner child.
- EMOTIONAL EFFECTS ON THE BODY
It is important to know how your body is affected when various emotions are experienced.
RAGE, for example, affects the heart and circulation as the face reddens or becomes purple, with the veins on the forehead and neck become distended.
JOY, when intense, leads to various purposeless (sometimes) movements like dancing, clapping and loud laughter.
FEAR and distress activate the limbic system at the base of our brains. This shuts off the cerebral cortex where creativity and problem-solving live. This is why your children cannot process their situation intelligently at this level.
This is how you can abort the feeling of rage and hostility, by consciously shifting your focus from the object of your anger or stress to a problem-solving mode. Right when you feel the stress of anger beginning, start thinking about math equations, computations or multiplication tables. When you do this, you are making a brain shift, from the limbic system at the brain base to the cerebral cortex, which is at the top toward the front part of the brain. You can’t remain angry when you are in a problem-solving mode. You can’t even be angry and solve problems at the same time. The brain won’t allow you to do that. What a tremendous lesson for you AND your children.
Being in tune with your separate body parts is very important. When you are in a very calm state, physically and emotionally, your body is at a level zero on the stress gauge. This level is considered your “baseline,” where you can use as a measurement to judge every other emotional and stressful experience. You should know at any given time how your body parts are doing. Just imagine security cameras focused on your individual body parts and you are in your security booth constantly looking at the screens making sure that there is no disturbance anywhere. As soon as any change is detected, you go right into action to prevent any further disturbances, thus cutting off the possibilities of an escalated stress level, and its accompanying package of side effects. What a great learning tool for you and your children.
There are plenty of symptoms of pre-stress conditions (antecedents) that should alert you that impending doom is lurking if something is not done soon. Some of the most common pre-stress and stress symptoms are:
- Sweating
- Upset stomach
- Muscles feeling tense
- Feeling like crying
- Fast breathing
- Shaky hands
- Cold hands
- Shaky legs
- Heart pounding and beating fast
- Tight feelings in your chest
- An overwhelming sense of worry
- Dry mouth
- Inability to sit still
You AND your children need to know this
When you notice the beginning of any of these changes in your body, it would be wise on your part to intervene right away. Do something to divert your attention away from the source of the stress. Having different calming techniques available for your use anytime is invaluable as you can choose which technique would be appropriate for your situation. Remember my earlier reference to the Antecedents; what comes before the Behavior, which comes before the Consequences? The ABC? This is how it is done. When your children learn this valuable technique, you won’t and they won’t go through many episodes where they react before they think with negative consequences following.
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
Parents with young children go NOW to www.cloudsofabundance.com and get your FREE Parent Video “5 Steps to Phenomenal Parenting”
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