IDENTIFYING AND MANAGING EMOTIONS part 2 – Nazim Rashid

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Emotions originate from exposure to specific situations. The nature and the intensity of the emotion are usually related to cognitive activity in the form of the perception of the situation. That thought process or perception results in the experience and or the expression of a related feeling. Emotion is an “umbrella” term which includes the situation, the interpretation and perception of the situation and the response or feeling related to the perception of the situation. Feelings are more conscious, and are the response part of the emotion. Feelings are a learned response in the culture in which we grew up. Emotions are our responses to the world around us and they are created by the combination of our thoughts, feelings and actions. We create our own emotions. Our responses are shaped by our thoughts -by what we tell ourselves. This information can help your older children better understand themselves and manage their behavior in a more healthy fashion.  
 
As you, and your children, clarify your understanding of your beliefs and patterns, you will learn that you are actually choosing your own life. You, and your children are the co-creators of your lives, consciously or unconsciously. It is mostly an unconscious creation. You create your dominant vibration. Your family members are the molders of their lives and it is your family members that have to take responsibility for the outcome of their lives and nobody else. Now, there is no more blaming your parents, teachers, other family members, peers, and media influence for the maladies and tragedies in your life. The cards are in your hands. You pick the card that you want. You drive on the road of your pleasure and you each create the path of your own desires. This is an excellent lesson for your children. 
 
Emotions are the whole experience. It is what comes before the feeling. Here are some examples:
 

• The feeling is depression; the emotion is sadness or anger.
• The feeling is anger and rage; the emotion is fear of abandonment and loneliness

 
For some kids, when you ask them, “How did that feel?” -their answer is, “That feels like the time when I got lost in the mall.” That is “their” emotion response. You can’t capture that emotion by saying, “I was really scared, which is simply a “feeling” response. That feeling and that situation are all wrapped up together. The clearer you can get with your children, the clearer they will be able to handle their feelings and subsequent behavior.
 
 
“Emotional Intelligence: Being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.” - Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
 
It is vitally important to teach your children to be emotionally intelligent, so they will know how to respond instead of just reacting, to think before they do, to know themselves and their emotional perimeters. These tips are applied to YOU first, demonstrated by you first, and THEN taught to your little ones. Emotional intelligence (EQ) means to:

- Integrate emotions and awareness
- Align feelings and reason
- Direct actions with vision to solve problems
- Resolve conflicts
- Creatively enhance inter and intra personal relationships.

It is the combination of:
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- Knowing yourself
- Choosing for yourself
- Giving of yourself.
 
 
Together we can transform your children from being angry, bullying, moody or too quiet to happy, compassionate, loving children. YES, and feel confident that you are using new compassionate parenting skills as opposed to how you were raised.
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