This mind-set has must exist before any new parental objectives or goals can be realized. Optimism - “ism” means “a belief in” and “optim” comes from the word “optimal” and the Latin word “optimus,” which means “the most, the max, the best, all the way, the top of.” So, optimism, for our purpose here, means “The strong belief that the best is possible and probable in my life.” Your life reflects your belief system. - The benefits of being optimistic are: - Improved relationships - An experience of more positive rewards and positive people - Others are affected by your positive energy - Improved health- Self-esteem raised - Self-image expanded - Overall good feelings increased – Best Parenting Skills – YES!
Affirmations are a great way to implant optimism into your consciousness and eventually into your subconscious. Here is the idea of self-talk again to establish and maintain Optimism as a natural way of life. Affirmations in the mirror are more powerful as you are actually talking to yourself and is more meaningful. As you say affirmations regularly, you actually start re-wiring your brain to receive more optimistic experiences. Regarding your children: - You start to see more positive characteristics, possibilities and activities. Since you are tuning yourself to the “Optimisitc channel,” their positive inclinations are more apparent to you. What you notice starts growing, as you suggest optimistic choices and applaud their optimistic choices. Optimism - “The strong belief that the best is possible and probable in my life.” Keeping this definition in mind, you NOW have the belief that the Best Parenting Ideas, the Best Parent/Child Relationship, the Best, Healthiest Example of a Loving Parent, the Greatest Validator, the Greatest Self-Esteem Builder, all is a natural part of you and this acknowledgment feels good. So, you can look at yourself in the mirror and say these “reminders” of what you have already established for yourself: “I see the best in my children today,” “I know that only Good belongs to them, and I will recognize this good as often as I can.” “I AM the Great Validator,” “I AM the Great Supporter of my children’s dreams and aspirations.”
Some of your parents might be saying, “That just isn’t real. I am a Realist” - “I don’t know anybody that has a morning like that in the mirror. That is a lot of Pollyanna.” Well, the fact is that many people do this each and every day. It is these people who understand the great Secret. The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, is a wonderful book that describes the universal Law of Attraction. You discover that you attract what you are thinking about. The mind operates from its dominant thought, or vibration, so if you are thinking about anything you don’t want, you are going to attract that same thing to you. Why? Because that, is the object on your mind. For example, you wish your children would clean up their room and stop being the sloppiest children you’ve ever seen. You are thinking about this sloppy scenario repeatedly. What kind of room and children are you going to see? Have any wild guesses? You know the answer. By the Law of Attraction, you brought THAT scenario into existence.
There are some prerequisites before you manifest this “Super Parent.” You must be a good visualizer. You must really see yourself enjoying the benefits of the bonding, connecting parent of happy children on your mind. Afterwards, you need to apply strong feelings to your prize image. Feel the feelings of having that image come true, that you have already are living it. Close your eyes and imagine that you are already enjoying: - a loving 2 way relationship with your children – a relationship where your children feel comfortable sharing their deep feelings – them allowing you to enter their world of imagination and dreams.
The Law of Attraction says that whatever you think about, you bring about. The way you think is a choice that you make. You can think the best thoughts about your children OR you can think about the possible trouble they are getting into at school. You can think about the health and all the good that you and your children have OR you can think about infirmities, other aches, pains and discomforts that you and your family might have. You can think about the money you have been blessed to have, the wonderful financial future that awaits you because you deserve it, and feel that it is already yours OR you can think about all the debt your children are causing you and the negative future more debt will bring. You see it is all a matter of choice. You can think about the little blessings that God gave you as you recognize that your young ones are in good health, and their grades in school are good OR you can think about the unruly kids in the house, making noise and keeping their room a total mess. You can think about all the good that you have received and as you ponder on the many, many blessings that you are grateful for, tears start to form OR you can think about the depressing thoughts that the sometime pass through your mind regarding life and life lessons. Yep, it is all a matter of choice.
You can choose to be happy or choose to be miserable. You can see your children as the blessings that they are or a curse from God. You are in control of those choices and no one else holds that responsibility. When you choose to be happy and optimistic, according to the Law of Attraction, you must receive the same, which will add to your happiness and reaffirm your optimism. There is always something to notice wrong with children, in general, because of them learning by trial and error and not really knowing their place in this unfamiliar earthly environment. Why focus your needed energy on faults and “why me” questions? If some of those things get fixed, there will just be more to take its place. Why? Because you are attracting more of the same to be there. It is not going to stop, so why be in that mode of continuing to bring on more unhappiness?
How about focusing on the other side? Misery and disappointment is not your only choice. There is another side that is being ignored on too many occasions. There is a lot of RIGHT with you, your surroundings and the children that you were blessed to receive. A rose has beautiful smelling, brilliant petals, and it has some very sharp thorns. What are you going to focus on? What are you choosing to receive? The prick or the fragrance? The punishment or the reward? And that is what it really comes down to in life.
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