It would have been healthier if you told your children that they had an endless supply of gold and treasures within and everything they need for the complete fulfillment of their life. The healthier and stronger they become, and the more insight of their own greatness they realize, translates to them being able to tap that reservoir inside and thus receive the benefits. Now, that all by itself will make them feel good.
“I love and accept myself. Deep in the center of me flows an infinite well spring of love. Love fills my whole being and radiates out from me in all directions, returning to me multiplied. I give and receive more love every day and the supply is endless.” – Louise Hay -If you were never told this, start today saying this to yourself until it becomes so natural and the words flow out of your mouth effortlessly. Once this is internalized you can direct these words to your little ones.
As you are learning how to be a The Great Self-Esteem Builder for your children, you are going to tell your children high self-esteem making statements and affirmations. You are going to tell him or her how you feel about them, their potentials, possibilities, and probabilities. When you are interacting with them, you are going to express to them how they make you feel when they are displaying the greatness of their own genius within. Just telling your children that you love them will have tremendous results, all by itself. Try saying that to your reflection in the mirror and see what feelings are stirred up within. Children need to be around adults who naturally express their feelings of health and wellness. They learn by the examples they see in their immediate environment. When they see you expressing joy and happiness in hearing of someone else’s accomplishments, they in turn will do the same when someone they know tells them of something good that they have done.
As you are encouraging your children to feel they can do and be anything, let them know that their self-esteem rises when they can influence some kind of change in their environment. This feeling adds to their self-worth and gives their life more meaning. They need to know that they can influence something around them. They need to know that they have some kind of gift, talent, passion or answer that the world is needing. They do have the ability to deliver this message and they know that
this message will create needed changes that somebody will appreciate. This is why volunteering for Service Organizations is good. Ask them questions and see what possibilities are within them for influencing something around them.
Keep in mind the health and emotional well-being of both yourself and your children is your foremost priority. So you are not going to entertain the “lower vibration” of other kinds of standards in your past or environment, such as “cultural self-esteem” as coined by Caroline Myss or any low self-esteem experienced in your history. WHAT YOU VALIDATE, YOU ASSOCIATE. You are going to ONLY validate and accept that which is alignment with your higher self and your higher self wants ONLY that which is good, healthy and life promoting. Caroline Myss talks about the “cultural self-esteem” or “group self-esteem” as the controlling standard many of us grew up accepting, for not to accept this resulted in punishment or ostracizing. This could be influencing your parenting style.
Another reason for you building your children’s self-esteem is because it affects their communication with others. Those who have a low self-esteem often view and perceive their world differently than those who possess a high level of self-esteem. Those with challenged self-esteem are inclined to be more defensive and hypersensitive. They are generally quicker to think that they are being attacked, talked down to, ignored, disrespected and/or slighted in some way or another. Some of them even have that on their mind when they are with people or just out in the public. It is like they are looking for someone that, in their mind, is finding fault with them in some way. It’s the Law of Attraction in action. Some appear to be picking a fight. You see this kind of personality at public high schools when classes end and the students are coming out, waiting for the bus, their rides, or just hanging out.